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01 Jul Destined Marriage

fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of [our] faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross…
Hebrews 12:2 NIV

I love this verse. It conveys a directive from heaven about where our focus and attention should be at all times: on Jesus. Then the writer shares the way this command applies to our lives by highlighting the example Jesus set for us. We fix our eyes on Jesus to learn from how He lived, and we find that He endured the cross because of the joy set before Him.

In other words, looking to the joy beyond our trials is what carries us through present trouble. What sustained Jesus was the joy of fulfilling His Father’s will: the redemption of fallen mankind and the hope of restored relationship between man and God. That joy, that driving force, that thing is what propelled Jesus through all kinds of trials. We are to follow in His example and have a joy—our own that thing—set before us to propel us forward.

If we don’t have vision beyond our current trials, we’re at risk of quitting or giving up. Many of us understand this truth as it applies to our personal lives. But how many of us apply this principle to our marriages? Do you and your spouse have a that thing that drives you through the trials you face in marriage?

Many marriages fail simply because there’s nothing to fight for. The goal of staying together is noble, but it’s often not enough.

We were all created to do something specific as individuals, but there’s a special joy in accomplishing a common goal together. This is not to say that you don’t still have an individual purpose once you get married. You do, and so does your spouse. In fact, marriage provides a place for each individual to flourish so husband and wife can both fulfill their God-given destinies.

But having a vision—a joy, a that thing—for your marriage is about recognizing that God wants you to impact lives together as a couple. You have a destiny. Your spouse has a destiny. And so does your marriage. Ask yourselves, What legacy will our marriage leave on the earth?

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  • Amanda Christie
    Posted at 09:41h, 01 July Reply

    This message spoke right to my heart! Fanned the flickering flames of purpose both as an individual and in my marriage!! Thank you!! So excited for the this Story Of Marriage curriculum!!

  • Jared
    Posted at 13:25h, 01 July Reply

    So many times, I have hyper focused on my self calling for who God wants me to be and at the same time tried to connect my marriage to it as well as if they were completely separate things. Reading this article has once again helped me refocus on the fact that my marriage is just as important to God as my individual calling. Thanks for this and keep bringing clarity and perspective to the important things in life!

    • Veronica Robinson
      Posted at 14:37h, 02 July Reply

      I so agree with you, Jared.

  • Jesse Wagner
    Posted at 16:55h, 01 July Reply

    Love the article, David! It’s not just about wanting to stay together for the purpose of simply staying together. It’s about having the purpose of the relationship as the focus to help propel you through tough times. I love asking the question, “What is accomplished in the world and for the Kingdom because of our relationship that wouldn’t happen otherwise?”
    Thank you for sharing!!

  • Iain Walters
    Posted at 16:24h, 02 July Reply

    What a fantastic read, I am only recently married and feel so blessed to read this artical at this early stage and to be able to take the principals from it in to my marriage pretty much from the get go. It is great to be not just remind but refreshed that not only does God have plans and purposes for my marriage but that he still has individual plans for myself and my wife and I have been givin the priveledge of being her main encourager in fulfilling those plans.

    For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29‬:‭11‬ NLT)

  • protandim
    Posted at 17:31h, 01 August Reply

    Great post. I’m experiencing a few of these issues as well..

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