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24 Jun Waiting Well (“Wait” Is a Four-Letter Word)

I’ve already settled in my heart that this Prologue message just might be the least listened-to message in the group. I’m fine with that; after all, who has time to wait or be patient? These are not necessarily the characteristics we pay the most attention to these days.

Reporter Linton Weeks put it this way:

In the past few decades we have become the Impatient Nation. We want quick answers to complex problems—the economy, diseases, personal relations.

We: Speed date. Eat fast food. Use the self-checkout lines in grocery stores. Try the “one weekend” diet. Pay extra for overnight shipping. Honk when the light turns green. Thrive or dive on quarterly earnings reports. Speak in half sentences. Start things but don’t fin…

We twitter stories in 140 characters or less, yet some tweets are too long. We cut corners, take shortcuts. We txt.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines patience as “the ability to remain calm and not become annoyed when waiting for a long time or when dealing with problems or difficult people.” We are all given opportunities to wait for a long time or to deal with problems. Many of us encounter this need for patience, perhaps at times with profound pain or frustration, in the waiting season before marriage.

Within a time of waiting, you will face off with the cheap or easy way out. At some point, most of us give into these opportunities—only to find ourselves in the same place somewhere down the road, again given the opportunity to acquire patience. This is no coincidence.

If you still don’t think this is on purpose, a lesson that must be learned—that patience is a characteristic that must be acquired for us to live vibrant, faith-filled lives—let’s get a glimpse of what Scripture says about it.

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.… (Galatians 5:22-23 NLT, emphasis added)

Hopefully the Holy Spirit is operating in all of our lives. If He is, one of the attributes that should be active in us is patience. The most likely way that patience is produced is through our having to wait and hope for something past the point we think is reasonable.

Along with wanting to display the fruit of the Spirit, we all desire love—to be love, show love, have love. Here again we find the need for waiting, for love is patient (see 1 Corinthians 13:3 NIV).

Love is many things, but one of its primary attributes is patience. There’s no way around that. If you forfeit learning how to wait and be patient outside of marriage, you will certainly face off with it within the covenant of marriage. And even for those who do a marvelous job waiting outside of marriage, I’m sure a new level of understanding waits within it (I’ll let you know if/when I find out).

My hope is that this message will encourage you to persevere through your waiting season. Instead of viewing it as torture or punishment, view it as opportunity and advancement. And I pray that you will find yourself in community with others who encourage you along the way. I’ll be the first to tell you, “Nothing is wrong. This is purposeful.”

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25 Comments
  • Jessica Duininck
    Posted at 09:49h, 24 June Reply

    This is a powerful message! Thank you.

  • Lauren Gilleylen
    Posted at 11:32h, 24 June Reply

    I have been patiently waiting my whole life for a specific man i feel has been laid on my heart since I was a teen. Thank you so much for sharing this message through the spirit. At times we tend to forget the promises of the lord, leading to compromise. So thankful, this message was a great refreshment to me!

  • Kristin Russo
    Posted at 13:16h, 24 June Reply

    That was an awesome message! Just what I needed. This morning God was showing me the difference between Ruth (who waited for a redeemer) and Tamar (who out of impatience tried to redeem herself).

    • ayanda twala
      Posted at 16:54h, 25 June Reply

      Wow, wonderful message.

  • Sandra Gallegos
    Posted at 10:28h, 25 June Reply

    Praise God. Awesome message.

  • Deborah stacy Rodrigues
    Posted at 14:34h, 25 June Reply

    Amen, thank you an amazing message,

  • Kim hill
    Posted at 14:50h, 25 June Reply

    “Love is patient.” Sometimes the simplicity of the Word is the most profound reminder. Thank you.

  • Minnie Suba
    Posted at 15:30h, 25 June Reply

    I needed to hear this! God’s ‘now’ Word for me. Thank you!

  • ayanda twala
    Posted at 16:52h, 25 June Reply

    Thank you so much for this amazing message. To God be the glory. I think what I took from this is, the realisation that waiting is created by God, waiting is as a beautiful season as marriage is. Once recognising the purpose of waiting, we can wait in belief and in faith. Cause if you don’t get what God is doing during the wait, you can start believing all sorts of lies, like you’re cursed, you’re not good enough etc. Thank you for sharing your experiences and shedding some light on this season.

  • Rebekah Sankey
    Posted at 20:06h, 25 June Reply

    Wow. Thank you for this arrow to the soul.

  • Dovefly
    Posted at 20:15h, 25 June Reply

    Awesome refreshing word! I can relate, I am waiting and was distracted and now I am waiting well ! I love your transparency! God is using you, may you be blessed!

  • Raissa
    Posted at 20:50h, 25 June Reply

    How awesome this message was!!!
    Thanks a lot!!!
    The waiting room will be less painful and frustrating from now on!
    God bless you guys!

  • Lisa Bevere
    Posted at 12:16h, 26 June Reply

    So well done Hannah!

  • Lyn Porter
    Posted at 15:09h, 26 June Reply

    Thank you Hannah this was a brilliant message.

  • Renee Jael
    Posted at 21:27h, 27 June Reply

    Just today I was thinking “maybe I don’t really know how up hear from God, Maybe I heard wrong” and a friend sent me this message. It’s with my deepest gratitude that I thank you for sharing this! I’d be listening to this again!!

  • Julia Mukete
    Posted at 10:56h, 01 July Reply

    Great and poignant message

  • natalie
    Posted at 16:12h, 01 July Reply

    This was a really great message. My only question is, what about those of us who have made mistakes along.the way? What do we do when the enemy had lied to us and told us that because of these mistakes, we may not receive as good as we would have in the beginning. How do we move forward,and believe in God’s promises again?

    • Lilly
      Posted at 04:03h, 23 September Reply

      Natalie, all of us make mistakes -all of us has sinned and fall short of the glory of God- Rom3 :23 God is alive and walking with us every day. Our mistakes are now our past and we have to learn to focus on our future and learn contentment in our present while waiting. I’m going to download this message as constant reminder when my mind starts wandering.

  • Lisa Liberatore
    Posted at 14:04h, 02 July Reply

    SO powerful and so timely. Thank you so much for this. I really needed it.

  • Kim
    Posted at 09:31h, 03 July Reply

    I specifically can relate to “not” waiting patiently before marriage and can attest to the fact that now, within the marriage, I find myself rediscovering the waiting process all over again. It happened just as you said. Good word!!!

  • Maria
    Posted at 01:38h, 13 July Reply

    Thanks for sharing what was on your heart about waiting. Good stuff!

  • Melody C
    Posted at 11:00h, 15 July Reply

    Very simple but Very necessary reminder!

  • Chanelle
    Posted at 09:59h, 16 July Reply

    Humility, God’s love and patience and peace has been the ultimate cure for my spirit and then my marriage! Great article! If only people could tap into this powerful thing called love and patience – life would be so much more joyous and peaceful! THANK YOU!

  • Lilly
    Posted at 03:51h, 23 September Reply

    God has an answer and this was an awesome answer. I ask myself this morning should my ex husband and I remarry. So I send him a message to call me.In the meantime , I open John and Lisa’s weekly e-mail and randomly opened on this talk of you Hannah. While listening my ex husband called but I knew in my heart that it is not what God wants. I still asked him the question and now I am so glad that he does not think we should. Because I know that God has a different plan for my life and I have to wait and be patient while doing what He placed on my heart to do. To create a place for single mums to help them prosper and I cannot do that from a place of comfort. Thank you Hannah. A timely message.

  • milagros nava
    Posted at 01:41h, 25 October Reply

    Praise God for His message! He spoke so clearly through you Hannah!

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